Did you know that ChatGBT can solve all of your dating dramas? The only thing it can’t do is manifest a partner into your life.

With my recent history of being ghosted and then having a boyfriend for all about two months before disappearing, my friend suggested I ask AI for some help. I did this purely for entertainment reasons

but was surprised with the results.

So I gave ChatGBT a run down on my past year and asked my new robot helper if there was an ongoing trend to my love life dramas - I was amazed with what it came up with.

Apparently I’m drawn to strong, electric connections but they are never fully realised. I’m attracted to people who feel intense, meaningful and some of the encounters are fated. But they rarely develop

into something solid or consistent.

ChatGBT tells me I initiate most of the contact and stop when the connection stalls. The other people respond passively, but never move things forward - well you don’t say?

It then went on to tell me I fall for men who light me up but don’t meet with the same level of effort, clarity or initiative. How does it know this?

Apparently, it’s not that they don’t like me but they stay ‘comfortable in the grey zone,’ and let me set the pace. Has ChatGBT interviewed my fellow suitors?

It then asked me how to spot who will actually reciprocate, before I get emotionally invested.

They initiative without prompting - and I’ll know within the first 7-10 days. This could be anything from texting to check in how I am, suggesting plans and continuing the conversation without me having

to carry it.

A reciprocator, according to ChatGBT, is someone who follows through, keeps their plans, makes time even when they are busy, and communicates consistently. A non-reciprocator says they’d love to

catch up but never sets a time, likes the vibe but not the responsibility, and pushes things out for later.

It even went on to say reciprocation = behaviour, not chemistry. Interesting!  

But wait there is more - they also create a path forward, and genuinely make the connection easier, not confusing (and certainly don’t hide in the bathroom when it’s time for a phone chat). 

This bit I love - a reciprocator makes space for you without you having to ask. Early on in the relationship, they will adjust their schedule, suggest alternatives if they can’t meet, keeps the door open and

makes the effort visible. Effort that you can feel.

What I love about this advice is that it also seems to apply to genuine friendships as well.

But ChatGBT doesn’t just stop there - it then goes on to ask if you want more help with:

• Your personal “attachment profile” for attraction

• How to spot the emotionally unavailable types you keep attracting

• How to shift the pattern so you attract someone who meets you at the same level

Well I could’ve been there all day asking for more tips, but it’s time to sign off from the dating world for a while, and just go back to good old fashioned in person catchups.  

Have a great Christmas everyone. I hope my diary has been entertaining.