If it doesn’t rain it pours. After what seemed like a man drought for several years, the world offered up some options, just to keep me in check.

The boyfriend from 25 years ago has gone abroad for three months. It was already planned before we reconnected. He said he might not make contact while away, but I thought he was joking. It’s been three weeks and there is absolutely no sign of him. Has he been kidnapped? Stuck in the desert without water? Beheaded by a camel? Or perhaps something even more sinister like being involved in some random drug heist. Eeek.

With our lives being worlds apart - literally - I decided to focus on something else. Myself. Fitness. Health and wellbeing. And then I bumped into an old mate in the supermarket that I hadn’t seen in years. He too, was into fitness and wellness and everything good like I was.

He offered some advice, having worked in the fitness industry, and I couldn’t not take up his offer. Of course, I could tell he had an ulterior motive, but what was the harm in that? If anything I was flattered. I told him about my new/old love - my recycled boyfriend who had disappeared overseas - and he said “anything can happen in three months”.  

He’s so right. So we’re hanging out. If Recycled Boyfriend had done the courtesy of messaging me, I could’ve explained.

“If you can’t be with the one you love, love the one you’re with?” Finally, that song makes sense.

There’s another funny twist to my now ‘active’ personal life: A guy I’ve had a crush on for years and years, who finally disappeared months ago because quite frankly I stopped thinking about him, is also back.   

First he appeared in my dreams two nights in a row. I was actually quite annoyed. Like I need any more distractions right now. And then the day I had coffee with Fitness Boy he appeared in the cafe - the ONLY other person in the cafe at the time. It feels like the universe is trying to have some fun. 

How could I be in the company of two extremely good looking men at once? Only one was giving me attention, but the other one certainly had mine. It was a struggle to keep on track. 

So there we have it. A conundrum. Will the Recycled Boyfriend come back, and if he does, will he still be interested? And Fitness Guy. After being mates for so many years and then arriving back in town, we’ve already had the discussion about the risk of taking it further and then losing what we had.

And the crush? He’ll just stay the same, nothing less and probably nothing more either. Unless he becomes single all of a sudden, and I don’t want that happening because of my influence. It’s just really weird that he always pops up when I start seeing somebody.   

And as for the online dating world? Well, I’ve hardly had time to look this month, there’s enough happening in my everyday life.